Both of these philosophies are used in controlling orginisations to try to justify them controlling you. Both of them have egoism involved as we have already discussed. By The way, ADHERING TO SOMEONE ELSE'S EGOISM IS NOT EGOISM, and is not good in my opinion. But what exactly is the difference between tough love and paternalism? When someone is doing paternalism, they are also doing tough love, and vice versa, I will explain how after I have covered them both. Tough Love Tough love is putting someone through a time they may not like because they may "benefit in the long term" or just "for their own good" and sometimes "morality". The issue with this is that their is no best outcome, just whatever the person wants. If someone wants to do something, they often get punished by parents or some other orginisation. If the punishment is time out, then this is most likely tough love, since it is often suppose to benefit the victim of tough love. We will talk about the disadvantages of tough love in this forum. The phrase originally came from a movie. Paternalism Paternalism is similar to Tough love. It is taking away a right for someones "own good" or "moral reasons". Many of the same disadvantages are the same as with tough love. This would be shown if I stopped you from eating too much candy because I said you would get fat. This is flawed because if the person knows, then they are just choosing to eat the candy and do not care about your health, and its your life.I will talk about the disadvantages to this on this forum. Paternalism comes from the word paternal meaning father, and means controlling someone in a fatherly way. How they overlap? Paternalism is taking someones right, tough love is putting someone through tough times, if you are putting someone in a tough time, then you are taking their right to the time and the ability to say no. If you take someone's right, then you are putting them through a tough time. So they overlap.